Category Archives: T. Dench Patel’s Blogs

Your reputation, individuality, and authentic self can only take off once you let the ideas of, in some cases, the control of the pack on you go

When the hormones are everywhere and emotional intelligence is out the window, control over whose calm and the controlling, i.e., the noisier ones, tougher ones, the ones that play off being popular and cool …it all gets very shady. I mean when do we know it’s time to break free? This is a part of destiny and divine timing, and when it’s time to break free there’s massive pressure on how it’s going to be received. Every one of us has felt this in one way, shape or form. Self-made, this journey is no journey for the faint-hearted, and when dreams are big, we have to be bold – T. Dench Patel, 10 December 2020, 17:02

How one bad event/risk can paralyse and overpower all the other decisions a person can make

Now that the volcano is over, the rocks have hardened from the pressure. God! But diamonds really form deep down in the dark! We just don’t know when found what our intrinsic value is and that which we can give out – T. Dench Patel, 9 December 2020, 22:08 We just don’t know how close we are to the surface when we’ll be found, and so giving up, please, giving up is no option. Trial and test, we’re always up against something new and the line is drawn after that. That fear has given and taken from us something that we will only understand one day.

How being an extra in the arts and culture industry influenced my reasons to continue writing

When writing my books, The South African: True Colours and all other books so far, I considered this a lot, I consider the work of Indians, Asians, i.e., what this industry refers to certain writers by labelling them as BAME (Black, Asian, Minority and Ethnic). BAME writers have to really go through some unrealistic hurdles to be considered as English writers or to have the opportunity to be published.

Just continue and allow the universe to meet you where you’re at

I don’t know how else to put it, see even the aborigines look out for signs to know if they’re on the right path. You will know it when you are on the right path, and the signs will still keep showing up, in doubt, they show up, even more, to remind us that we are on the right path. So, especially in times like these a lot of people are finding it hard to keep the faith, the belief has been shaken, their plans have been shaken and things can look a bit cloudy, while for others things can and are looking really dark.

Quick wins or slow wins? Do it right, good and bad karma is promised to all, but tomorrow is promised to no one

Quick wins – Plant anywhere, throw anything in it, try quickly various things and methods to make it grow (meaning short cuts and short processes), less or nil studying, less or nil planning, less or nil applying, see what makes it grow at a quicker rate, let it ripen (unless you cut it premature), prepare it nicely (if you have time), deliciously (if you have time), share it (if you have time), more will come if you have prepared the land nicely, the roots are in, firm and the environment is perfect, and keep nurturing it. (Some mistakes can never be undone).

If you are on this planet then you’re worthy of love and respect and with those who don’t get this don’t waste your time

You know, we understand, those of us who get it. We all want to be liked, we all want to be respected, who doesn’t? I don’t know anyone who doesn’t, even my dog wants me to respect him. I mean look at social media, everywhere people ask you to like, share and follow them.

Sacrificing one life to save hundreds? But how many times has that one life been sacrificed?

Hello friends, happy Wednesday. How are you doing? Now, I know many of you have returned to lockdown, while we here in South Africa are a bit light right now on lockdown since it’s a very boiling Spring, it’s not to say that some people should get a permanent lockdown or more like a lockup!…

Changing right from the start or later pay for an expensive therapist, maybe even an expensive divorce! Oof! What if you have to pay for both? Most of all, is it worth having your life on the line?

Why would you want to live the pain, the heartache, the toxicity, the negativity, the destruction of dignity, the power game, i.e. basically the downward spiral? Only to get further down, emotional bankruptcy to the next stage, financial bankruptcy? Often when something has passed beyond the point of returning the chances are it can’t return, or it won’t return unless the person becomes their own hero.

Reasons why one parent can seem so incompetent when it comes to sharing kids. It really is a pity

The biggest knock one can ever have is finding out that one has placed all their self-worth in the hands of their husband, wife, partner, boyfriend or girlfriend. The biggest knock and shock after that is finding out that we were seeking love externally when we haven’t given ourselves the love that we really deserve from us (us the very person owning our body, mind and soul).

Why single, independent women travelling around the world get so little respect?

Simone is from New Zealand and by this time she knew all too well what it was like to be a single woman travelling around the world. She participated in some great paragliding competitions and joined paragliders in Peru, Greece, Cape Town man… I lost count, but she has pretty much been in places where I can’t even pronounce the name or even the country properly and just like myself Simone was certainly targeted in the workplace, by players (men), in gatherings, in environments (gosh I wished we knew better, then) where women like us i.e. who earned our own money, struggled to make it overseas, lived clean were seen as a threat.