Category Archives: T. Dench Patel’s Blogs

What is gaslighting?

With gaslighting, the victim often starts to believe they are the problem. The abuser is a master liar and will dodge all the truths about their destructive behaviour by lying. Gaslighters try and show others that they are worried about the victim subtly and inevitably make people, friends, family members, the social circle of the victim and their own groups believe that the victim is unstable, has medical conditions that are not even true, that the victim is the one who has the bigger problem or issue. The Gaslighter may also use this by making the victim feel that others feel the same about them even when they don’t.

The day God, Universe, Source energy, Higher power call it what you want stopped time

Then one year later arrived and The day God, Universe, Source energy, Higher power call it what you want stopped time for everyone. Let’s face it, a lot of us were tired of “keeping up,” keeping the façade up, keeping the strength up (whatever that means) that is sold to us falsely; lying in bed for a little longer or for the time one needs was negatively looked at, or that one must be a human being that never shows weaknesses or tiredness. “What, you are not working, OMG!” what is “to work” supposed to mean?

REAL people and REAL-life stories that will REALly inspire you

Lily Elbert born in a Jewish family, had a wonderful family life until the Nazi’s arrived at their house. They were ordered to hand over all the jewellery and all their valuables were confiscated. When Lily was 4 or 5 years old her mother gave her a small gold pendant. Her brother knew how important it was to her that he hid the pendant in her mother’s shoe.

To be worth it

While so many people have fallen off their boats right now, just like the year 2008 it’s important to remind yourself heck ourselves not to push against the waves, just stop resisting this change, find your anchor, find a wooden board, somethings to paddle with (if you find other things to capture water, stay warm, catch fish with, great) get on it, stay dry, choose your wave and go if you have to, but just keep moving, just keep taking action until slowly things fall into place… And with faith… Soon enough someone will find you or you will find it, and that my friends, will just be the beginning… it would all be worth it! T. Dench Patel, 4 May 2021, 1606

Who are you gonna be? – Michelle Obama

Michelle Obama didn’t ask, “What are you gonna do?” “Who are you gonna be?” meaning how do you plan to embody everything that you are in your daily life and how will you respond to that. “Who are you gonna be,” is a serious question and some of you out there reading this article have no idea what this real world is like, what space it will hold for us, who might even be around us when we have no one but ourselves to rely on when something is very important to us, or if something is threatening how far we have come in life thus far, “Who are you gonna be?”

How being present is fundamental to becoming a woman or a man?

It takes continuous and small moments of being present and ensuring the environment is healthy for growth which means as much as one would need to pay their school fees, pay for their clothes, their necessities; material wealth to help with their growth it requires just as much being present because children appreciate the time one spends with them, they connect better that way, they keep those golden moments in their memory, because they are not aware of the real world and how money is involved in it to the extent that we adults are aware of.

The power of perseverance

To give you this comparison to something more powerful at work is an example of the journey of a small tree to becoming the size that it can grow to. It can only but do with what is available to it on its journey to growth and strive on the hell-over hot days with what it’s got even in the moment it is presented with heat, drought, rain, flood and the same, it can die under the hands of a really good farmer or it could flourish from just a seed in some deserted area where no one really goes. What matters in this whole scenario? It tries its best to survive day in and day out with what it can access and with what comes its way, the rest is up to the universe.

Everywhere but nowhere

Travellers will also resonate from this article, remember living out of your bag? Remember that feeling? Me, a travelling suitcase, I was living from that for say 1 year, but you, you could have been living from your backpack, maybe some really lucky people will live off a briefcase. :b, I don’t know them though. That experience was an interesting place to be, to look at two worlds, one from the world of having just the moment in your hands and in one moment you can feel like you have everything, living from moment to moment felt like I was rich to live what I was living, but the truth is, the law of attraction really does exist. If you don’t know how to have fun with the universe, you can be living moment to moment from a place of lack and negativity too

Give and take – Every single second we do this as we breathe – What don’t we realise?

The most important point to make here is that we need plants to take in carbon dioxide (CO2) so that we can get oxygen in return (O). So, all living things on earth are not here by chance. The fundamental thought of just understanding the breath and how everything around us actually works with a bit of mindfulness now just made sense, i.e., we cannot exist without something else and something else cannot exist without us – T. Dench Patel, 22 April 2021, 17:05

It’s the law of the universe, it’s the order of the universe, and so if I was to ask you what happens if you take too much and give nothing back, the balance flips everything off. Giving and taking is an essential part of our lives subconsciously, and breathing is not something we do consciously. I mean, have you ever heard of Grant Adam, he wrote the book Give and Take: Why helping others drives our success. I read about Grant Adam in the New York times; an article published about how he works, and the philosophy he uses behind one’s success. Wait, one sec, let me see if I can find it….

The spirit of success

So, I have decided to tackle this topic because at some point or even at many moments in our lives we all have copied someone somewhere, I mean the most copying begins when we are young, after all, copying is the beginning of character definition. As we get older, copying can work in terms of strategy, getting results even, but to be someone else or to do something that someone else is doing and to hope we’d get the very same results can be that we are not following what is really showing up or coming up most of the time in our hearts, spirit and intuition. I have to be honest, if someone is always looking around and stops focusing on their own results to then focus on the results of others there is much self-improvement required.