Category Archives: T. Dench Patel’s Blogs

The fish that left the pond

Choosing to stay with the dead, (we can take this literally or figuratively), is a choice we make/made. The dead parts of animals, humans, plants all fall away so that growth can take place. For some reason, we as humans, many of us hold onto the dead things (stories, old truths – that we keep and make them part of our current truths, ways of living, default autopilot thinking, toxic people, etc.). Control is one thing we really want and often too much that it works against us. What if, what if I tell you we put way too much pressure on ourselves on the things we are controlling. Why? Take a look at where we are, each one of us. Some of us know each other here, and we wonder why someone is so far in life and why we are where we are. Why? Because we are controlling the things that are not serving us, that we should let go to set us free so that we can grow, while the same can be said for not controlling the correct things that help us with our growth.

When an uncontrollable fire has to burn

From where this topic stems? When I was discussing with a person how important it is to walk in life being aware, we don’t have to react to everything, we can just be aware of what’s going on the left, right, centre, angle, and behind, not necessarily be in control of everything, not necessarily paranoid, and not necessarily being ignorant either. When we are in a world where we have been learning and growing, the more we move forward in health, wealth, self and social the more we have to be aware and realistic, not everyone is on this path and being intentional about picking information is important. Just like one mentor said, “Pick your fights well.”

She said, “It’s hard to make real friends in Johannesburg,” and I wondered, “Perhaps it’s hard in any place in the world.”

I think it’s important to consider that if one has been living in a place all their life or moved not so far away, real friends always make each other accessible and the downside with moving is that she said, “It’s hard to make real friends in Johannesburg,” and I wondered, “Perhaps it’s hard in any place in the world,” is very true of our lives and being in any part of this planet, until COVID arrived, after COVID I don’t know, but I can only speak for me, I’ve started the journey to become the friend that many friends wish to have in the world even if they’ve met me for the first time (I really hope I do well here) because I can truly tell you how that feels with the life I had before COVID. I wish and when you read this sentence, please wish me well on this as I wish you too that I can be seen as a genuine friend even if we’ve met just once and keeping fingers crossed, we’ll be friends for life.

Taking out the trash

I mean let’s face it, cleaning out the energy calls the spirit home. Wouldn’t you want to go home all excited if you enjoy living there if it’s really clean? Who wants to go to a negative home, who wants to live in a dark room, in a dark space? The majority wouldn’t. Darkness, dark energy, dark things attract darkness, dark situations and light attract the light things in life, light situations most of the time. A spirit is called to its home but it’s better if it loves coming home.  – T. Dench Patel, 16 March 2021, 16:54 Wouldn’t you want to hang out at home if everything is cool?

The braver you get in a life constructed out of the box the greater the target you are

However, this is not the only reason why the target is greater on you, everything you offer will either be scrutinised, or it will be of honest help to who uses it, reads it (if you’re a writer), the target audience and even to the audience that is just not aligned at all to your message, vision, product or you. This can either come and haunt you or it can either come to bless you. The truth is we’re all trying (or at least most) to end up having blessed outcomes, but even if the intention is there, it doesn’t always end up that way, and so the braver risk a lot living out of people-pleasing mode and most work more in purpose-driven mode. T. Dench Patel, 10 March 2021, 16:57 That doesn’t make you people’s favourite, I must say.

Money is a great servant but a bad master – Lord Francis Bacon. The laws of money

Law number 1 – Everything is moving, nothing rests. Are you moving forward or backwards? As Bob Proctor puts it, “grow or die”, “create or disintegrate”, “rich or poor”.

Law number 2 – Karmic law, sow or reap, cause and effect, action and reaction. Thoughts, feelings, and actions that you express in life are the seeds that you sow that conditions, circumstances and things that come into your life is the harvest you reap of the seeds that you sow.

A life of no expectations

Living a life of expectations automatically comes with disappointment as a side effect, just like an overdose of anything. Living on a high then processing the high and quick wins especially without sitting down, discussions, processing it within the mind and seeing if the plan can be bettered, made advance, more full proof, perhaps what a plan A, B or C looks like, but the key is, NOT GETTING ATTACHED TO THE OUTCOME, i.e., to what is planned but allowed for surprises.

Rather be alive than money being dead

So, if successful people are always moving, this means money is always moving. You know what, really wealthy people say having a house doesn’t make you money. For real, so, recently I’ve been working on my money mindset a lot, … yes, like a lot… and this is what’s coming up over and over again…

Asking powerful questions

Asking powerful questions take just as much art as answering a powerful question, but that also depends on your inner game, i.e., how confident are you, are sure of yourself, intuitively how do you feel about answering the question, why is it being asked, and by who. Wouldn’t you agree, if you don’t like someone, and you’re stuck with having to talk to them, you’d either ask closed questions, rather light questions, have things be short and sweet?

Relationship resilience – How COVID has tested your relationships

You know, this isn’t something that is out there, but with 2020 I definitely knew of several people who had marriage on the cards, and I feel that the news hasn’t really put this out in the forefront. I don’t know, over the weekend this topic came across my mind, and I was like, “Gosh, I really would like to know the statistics around this, challenges, etc.” I know so many people have said, “We have never been in each other’s space, like for this long, and with the risks, we have never felt the lows that we have felt like this year ever.”