Author Archives: TPatel

How can you love someone else if you don’t love yourself first? What does this sentence mean?

Okay, so here you are. Putting cutex on your nails, doing some awesome clothes shopping, getting your eyebrows done, getting a haircut and maybe you stop there, or maybe you’re also going to the gym. Is this self-love? I call that say ten percent of self-love. Okay, now you’re putting a thick base, fake nails,…

No need to be an Indian to get an arranged marriage. The system forces you to get one overseas. If you want a “beating”, it is likely to happen. There’s nothing put in place for a single woman seeking independence in her own right easily

I have no idea how I came to this article, hmmm okay let me be frank with you. You know why I came to write this article? I just never thought about this topic until a week ago and what reminded me is this article that I came across right about now. https://www.newshub.co.nz/home/travel/2019/07/no-plans-for-new-zealand-to-reciprocate-visa-free-travel-for-south-africans.html If you’re…

A traveller’s perspective from research and observation – Alcohol, depression and mental health

I’ve decided to write this article because there are many women out there who have to put up with the culture around drinking when it comes to their husbands and the patterns that form around this culture. I am sure there are also men who have to put up with women who drink more than…

What is the thing that you’re most scared of being authentic about?

After researching this topic, I found out the following: “I am afraid of being myself around family because of all the gossip in my family. I feel like I have to be perfect in order to negate the rumours. I wish I didn’t care what my family members thought but I do.” “I think it’s…

Hindu or Muslim? Why Indians can’t seem to stand as one race till today in South Africa? I can’t speak for the rest of the world…

I gave this article this title because South Africa is still a very racist country. We’ve gained independence in 1994 and can’t even set an example for other countries considering our history that I, as a traveller, faced racism abroad. Racism has followed me throughout my life. The worst thing was that I left South…

The challenges that single women face, even abroad

Brace yourself for this article. I hope you’ve got a strong drink next to you or a stiff one… And no, I do not recommend alcohol. Just make sure you got a drink with you (say green tea with some calming effects, for example) when you read this article. Caution… I warned you. This article…

Why doesn’t South Africa have a cashless system?

You really got to check what this article where I leave the link says, look at the full stats. This is what shocked me even though the whole article was striking. Over 80% of robberies occur with the help of inside information. 97 % of robbers are armed. On average an armed robbery gang has…